A Picture Paints A Thousand Words
If you are an expectant dad reading this article I would like you to take a look at what you’re wearing right now…. It’s okay I’ll wait. Now ask yourself what are you trying to communicate? Even though we dress ourselves every day we somehow can forget just how much of an impact we have on the people we meet and see every day without saying a word.
To celebrate all the expectant fathers our there I thought I would tell you about a conversation that I had with some expectant fathers who were attending one of our Hypnobirthing Antenatal Classes.
After discussing the importance of positive communication through language between expectant fathers and midwives, obstetricians etc. one father asked me’ how do you think I should dress when my partner is going into labour? I thought about this for a moment and then I realised that communication is so much more than just what comes out of our mouths, it’s about people’s first impressions of us and how we feel about ourselves. After opening up the question to the rest of the expectant fathers within the group it became clear that all of them shared a real anxiety about not being listened too. How could they feel confident as the advocate of their partner in labour so that they would be able to speak clearly and calmly and feel respected especially if it was a sensitive conversation with people in authority.
So how can we feel more confident and display more confidence in a non-verbal way?
Confidence comes when we know exactly what colour and styles suit us.
There is no doubt that wearing a colour that suits our natural colouring can make us look and feel healthy, energised and vibrant. This has a positive effect not only on ourselves but those around us. Conversely if a colour doesn’t suit us then it can have the opposite effect, making us look and feel dull, lifeless and invisible. Have you ever had a day when people keep saying you look tired and asking are you ok? Perhaps have a look at what you have got on …can you be seen or do you blend into what you are wearing. My advice if you don’t know what suits you? If you have a favourite colour that you feel good in, wear it.
When it comes to the level of dress when going with your partner to support her giving birth no one is going to expect you to be wearing a suit, collar, tie and cufflinks, that would be inappropriate, but dressing in a clothes that make you feel confident as well as comfortable will make such a difference. You’ll carry more authority and more likely to be listened to should you need it! So get that outfit ready in advance, you might have to leave in a hurry!
Written By Barbara from Hypnobambinos & Jane Lowther from House of Colour
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